As most of you know, I’m in the process of launching a new venture for primary breadwinning women everywhere, known as 40 Percent and Rising.
And let me tell you, there is nothing like a new venture to kick up all sorts of fear.
Fear of failure.
Fear of ruin.
Fear of disappointment.
Fear has been ruling the day in my house for some time now.
However, one of the interesting things about fear over the last couple of months is that it’s become so familiar.
So much so that I don’t really mind its presence so much anymore.
Which brings me to the topic of today’s post: what your fear is here to tell you.
I’m a big believer that there are two kinds of fear.
First, the kind of fear that is there to legitimately warn you of danger. The kind of fear that, if you’re me, makes you cross the street late at night because you just get a bad feeling about that corner, or that alley, or that person who is coming up behind you.
That fear is self-protective, and it’s worth honoring.
Second, however, is the kind of fear that’s there to hold you back.
The kind of fear that says: you’re not ready.
The kind of fear that says: people won’t like you if you do this.
Or, the kind of fear that says: what if you fail?
This is the kind of fear that you have to get used to if you want success, if you want to change the world, if you want to live the life you dream of living.
Here’s a secret: we all have it.
Even the most successful of us have it.
In fact, the most successful of us may have it more than anyone else.
This is the kind of fear that requires you to keep going ANYWAY.
So, how do you confront this fear and power onward?
You need a few coping mechanisms, and few shifts in thought.
First, know how to manage your anxiety. I’ve been experimenting with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) over the last two weeks and I am shocked by the difference it has made in my stress levels. Clients of mine also rely on acupuncture, yoga, meditation, and any number of other anxiety-management techniques. Know what works for you, and stick to it.
Second, understand that the negative, fear-based tapes in your head are simply outmoded thoughts. That fear, that anxiety, might have been necessary when you were a kid and worried about your survival or your safety or simply maintaining the love of those around you. Now, as an adult, however, you have the ability to care for yourself and to make good choices as you progress, so thank those thoughts for how they’ve served you, and send them on their way.
Third, focus on what matters.
Focus on your mission.
Focus on your goals.
Focus on how your dreams and your ideals are going to make the world a better place.
And then, and this is key, believe that you are taken care of.
Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned in the last little while, it’s that when you are aligned most with your highest vision, YOU CANNOT FAIL.
And have a great week.
All the best,
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