As those of you who read last week’s blog know, I’m currently developing a project that is the full incarnation of my mission in life (more details on that coming soon). This endeavor is consuming virtually all of my time, though I rarely notice time passing when I’m working on it.
It’s no overstatement to say that I am wildly in love with this project– completely, utterly, with total abandon.
While riding on the subway last week, however, it hit me that no matter how perfect this endeavor may be for me right now, it is not a project that I could have manifested ten years ago or five years ago or even twelve months ago. Not at all.
There are some concrete reasons for this that have nothing to do with me, like the fact that technology now exists that will allow me to run a massive social good endeavor from anywhere in the world, or the fact that this project deeply supports a segment of our population that is suffering through a cultural crisis that didn’t exist ten years ago (like I said, more on that soon).
But there are also some deeply personal reasons why this endeavor hasn’t been possible until now.
And the short way of explaining this is to say the following:
I just wasn’t ready for it.
Back when I was working full-time in the corporate world, I was horrendously impatient. I’ve alluded often on this blog to the “banging my head against a wall to get out” state in which I found myself virtually every day.
As I’ve gotten older, however, I’ve learned something very important: sometimes, things need to simmer before the right choice will rise.
Like all good things that cook, sometimes it takes some time for the flavors to meld just right before we’re ready to consume what’s before us. This is as true in life as it is in the kitchen.
Sometimes, you have to sit still in order to move forward. (tweet this)
Several times over the last year, I’ve found myself in a place of frustration or burn-out. Experience has taught me– finally, after 43 years on the planet– that those emotions are signs I need to pause.
You may feel this too. You may be desperate to get out of a job, or a city, or a career path, or even your current relationship, but you don’t know where to go or what to do next, or you doubt the prospect of the choices currently in front of you.
This is a moment when you need to STOP.
Sometimes, you just have to sit with it.
Don’t get me wrong, sitting with it can be very uncomfortable.
It requires you to experience that discomfort, that not-knowing, and be okay with it in the moment. And more than that, to trust that the right outcome is coming to you.
(This gets easier the longer you practice.)
It’s imperative that you do this, however, because acting before you are ready has its consequences (I know this from experience, too).
And the payoff, if you are willing to be wait long enough, is huge.
That payoff is the knowledge that your next choice is the perfect one, and aligned entirely with what is right for you in your life– a choice you will never doubt, never question, never regret.
That’s the place I’m in right now on a daily basis. I’ll be inviting some of you to join me there soon.
But in the meantime, if you’re struggling with the next step in your life, your career, or your world in general, give yourself permission to pause, sit still, and wait.
The answer will become clear. The right choice will emerge. And you’ll step into what comes next entirely confident that you’re on the right path.
Enjoy it. And have a great week.
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