Between a ton of work on upcoming projects, some interpersonal challenges, and then the passing yesterday of someone who I didn’t know all that well, but who left a major mark on all those he came into contact with, it’s been a week of feeling A LOT.
These weeks/days/months will happen.
As I sit here writing this, I’m thinking of all the other folks in the professional circles in which I operate who would write here that it’s best to disengage, detach, get happy, remember the positive, and make it all love and light when things get tough.
In case you hadn’t noticed, that’s not really my style.
I’m a big believer– even more so after this week– that those things which are not discussed, which remain hidden or off the table, have a tendency to fester and emerge in other, negative ways.
In other words, my mantra this week has become No Way Out But Through.
Now, I could give you one of my handy lists here on how to get through and process difficult times. I’m not feeling called to do that today, though, and so I think I’ll opt this week to just say this.
Engagement with all you feel will serve you well.
Denying what you feel, or pretending grief, anger, frustration, or overwhelm don’t exist, is a recipe for your stress emerging elsewhere.
And part of the path of life, at least as I see it, is to own the good and the bad equally. No peaks without valleys. No success without failure. No joy without heartache.
The ups and downs are a part of the wonderful, delicious experience of being human.
I have been reminded today by a number of old friends, in memoriams posted on Facebook for the one we lost, that life is brilliant, fragile, tenuous, beautiful and all too brief.
The friend we lost was notorious for seizing life with gusto– for his sense of adventure, for his willingness to go skinny dipping at a moment’s notice, for his all-out commitment to engagement with what was on offer in his life.
And though we only knew eachother briefly, in the years that passed, when I’d think of him, or get an email from him randomly in my inbox, I’d be reminded of how happy and kind he always seemed in life.
I, at least, believe that that has something to do with how committed he was to living it.
And so today, I want to encourage you to commit to your life– all of it, the good and the bad, the beautiful and the broken. Go deep into what hurts, what scares you, what makes you mad, and allow yourself, in your own space, to feel it all. And then, in turn, go deep, as deep as you can stand, into what brings you happiness, what makes you laugh, what thrills and excites and enriches you.
STEP IN to all of it.
And more than anything else, surround yourself with people who bring you JOY.
Today, what I want for you– what I want for all of us– is that we learn to love it all, surrounded by people who understand us, support and love us, and who bring us to better places, as our friend so easily did.
That, in my humble opinion, is why we’re here.
Wishing you a week of living and loving your life, in all that it entails.
All the best,
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