In the last week alone, I had a long-time working relationship unexpectedly come to an end, my family began preparing to move, my daughter turned three, and my family faced a number of personal challenges at home.
There are times when everything seems up in the air, in crisis, and demanding of our attention, and this is one of them.
My process for dealing with this past week has involved some tears, a fair amount of wine, and a bit of zoning out in front of the TV– including and especially the new TV show Empire– before beginning to ground myself in the tenets by which I live my life.
But before I get to those, a little interlude on Empire.
In a recent episode, one of the sons who is an heir to the show’s music dynasty came out of the closet, after a huge amount of conflict with his father.
As a way of recovering and honoring that moment, he then recorded a beautiful duet with another artist about what it takes to overcome adversity and rise.
It was a powerful moment that left me in tears the first time I saw it, and the song that has been on replay non-stop on my iPhone ever since.
The title of that song? Conqueror.
And as you’ll note below, I’m embedding the clip of that moment in today’s post as a powerful testament to what it takes to rise in the face of failure, and continue onward in the face of change.
Through my own recent transitions, the song has inspired me to ask of myself and of others in recent days:
What does it mean to be the Conqueror of your own life?
Here’s what it means to me.
It means choosing to rise instead of wallow.
In the face of challenges, it’s often easy to engage in the poor-me, WTF why did this happen, I can’t believe that all of this is happening at once kind of mentality.
A more fruitful response, however, once we’ve wailed, grieved, and faced reality, is to look at the opportunity presented by the changes you’re facing instead of the downside. To look to the future, in other words, instead of the past.
Step forward into the seeds that are being planted in the darkness, and choose to rise.
It means owning your capacity, to the fullest extent possible.
Becoming a conqueror in your own life means recognizing that you are capable of great things, even in times of change.
What might you be able to do now that wasn’t available before this crisis?
What are you being called to do now that you might not have seen before?
What lessons have arisen from the challenges you’re facing now, and how do those lessons inform your potential?
Step in to the vast breadth of your talents, and use this moment of change to shine.
It means getting down to business.
Sometimes, when we’re faced with change, and we’re overwhelmed by the current challenges we’re facing, the only viable solution is to take action.
By taking action, we signal to the Universe that we mean business, and we’re ready for the next step.
Taking action also necessarily means that you’ll experience a shift in your anxiety-levels, because you’re taking back your power in times of enormous change.
Action = results, and that’s a good thing.
It means, above all, having faith that you are on the right path, and that all is unfolding as it should.
It can be tough in moments of great transition and upheaval to continue to believe that everything is happening for the right reasons.
Nix that– it can feel, for a period of time anyway, downright impossible.
But let me give you an example from my own life that has forced me to recognize that the timing of one of my current transitions is, in fact, ideal.
The long-term work relationship I mentioned above, which came to an abrupt end last Thursday, had for several years eaten up a huge chunk of my time every week.
And while it was a fruitful and profitable arrangement, it also prevented me from doing other work that needed to be done.
Two days before this relationship came to an end, Ivanka Trump featured me and my work on her website, leading to an abundance of new opportunities.
And other opportunities (things like corporate sponsorships for 40 Percent and Rising, new professional relationships with folks like Ivanka Trump, Ali Brown and others, and new coaching relationships) that have been calling for further attention for some time began to bear fruit.
And so, while the sudden end of this long-standing professional relationship was at first a shock to the system, in reality, this transition needed to happen, right now, for me to able to take my businesses to the next level and grow into a new phase of personal and professional leadership.
All in its time. All in its place. Even those things that are unexpected. Even those things that may come as a shock.
It is all happening for a reason.
Being a conqueror in your own life means knowing that, come what may, you are on the path you are meant to be walking, and you are going to be all right.
This week, I invite you to find your inner conqueror, and rise.
And if you need a little inspiration, here it is.
Wishing you all the best.
PS. If you’re interested in learning more about my collaboration with Ivanka Trump, I’m hosting a Facebook chat on her page today at 3 p.m. ET. Join us right here.
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