shutterstock_165171191In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been confronted quite a bit by the discomfort of change.

I’m not talking bad change. I’m talking good change.

Change toward more security, more comfort, more income, more ease. Change directly toward a vision of what I want my life to be.

You’d think that I’d be overjoyed and completely open to this shift, right?

You’d be wrong.

As certain events began to unfold over the last few weeks that allowed me to move further into a more easeful, less stressed life, I was shocked to realize that I was RESISTING this shift toward ease over and over again.

I was reverting to old patterns of coping.

I was reverting to old patterns of worry.

I was looking for reasons to be stressed out.

Not fun, right?

It got me thinking about how much we are creatures of habit, and how much we get used to coping and living in places of dis-ease.

We get used to complaining about how hard it is.

We get used to seeing all the things that aren’t working.

We get used to struggle.

None of which serve us– except, that is, if we’d rather stay put.

Choosing to stay in a place of struggle even when things are improving sends a message to the Universe that you’re not ready for something better.

So how do you tell yourself, your partner, or the Universe, that you’re ready for a positive shift?

Some of you aren’t going to like the answer.

In order to welcome in change, you have to be willing to be uncomfortable. (tweet this)

And being willing to be uncomfortable is a PRACTICE.

Want to know what that practice looks like for me? Here’s how it works.

1) Observe when you’re feeling stressed, negative, or unnecessarily fearful, and observe what has triggered it.

For me, thinking about our finances has been a source of stress for me for a long time. Even as more and more income has rolled in over the last little while, I still noticed myself reverting to the stressful pattern of worry, usually when the thought of the bank balance crossed my mind.

Noticing this feeling, and recognizing that it is nothing more than a bad habit, is the first step to releasing the pattern.

2) Choose a mantra that takes you to a different place, and repeat it every time you observe your pattern kicking in.

When you’re seeking to shift something negative in your life, choose a mantra that reminds you to stay receptive to something better. Mantras should be very specific to your circumstances, and feel to you like being wrapped in a comfy blanket.

For me, working through my patterns of worry involved a very simple mantra: “I am open to a shift toward a better, more easeful life. I am open to allowing things to change.” Often, I followed that up with “I deserve this. I deserve to be happy and relaxed.”

These are monster mantras that are very powerful when you work them repeatedly and allow them to sink into your consciousness.

3) Focus, even just for a few seconds, on your willingness to change.

This is where the “will” in “willing” kicks in: you have to use your will to sit in the discomfort of remaining open to better things– even and especially if you’ve been in the habit of convincing yourself that the change you want will never happen.

Holding our hearts open in the face of fear, or past hurt, or grief over where we find ourselves, is some of the hardest work there is. It is also the most rewarding.

Absent your willingness to remain open, change won’t find the space it needs to enter your life. (tweet this)

Breaking your old patterns, habits, and ways of thought will lead you to better things. An open heart is the super-highway to getting there.

Which is not to say it’s easy.

When you reach a point of discomfort with the change that’s on offer for you, make sure to breathe through the bodily sensations of what staying open feels like. Choose to feel that openness, even for a few seconds at a time, while you repeat your mantra in your head.

Repeating this new habit whenever you feel yourself turning toward an old one sends a message to yourself, to others, and to the Universe that shifts can take place for you, and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to receive them.

And I’ll let you in on a secret: every time you follow these steps, it becomes easier to sit in the place of discomfort, and to stay in the place of remaining open for a longer period of time.

You’ll also notice that positive change comes to you more and more frequently, reinforcing what we know to be true: that when you stay open and show your willingness to welcome in the positive, it WILL come.


I want to repeat, however, that none of this is easy. But being willing to sit in discomfort for the sake of something better is key. As an old friend of mine likes to say, not everything that takes work is valuable, but everything that is valuable takes work. Why?

Because without the work, you wouldn’t know its value.

Wishing you a week of welcoming in what you most desire.

All the best,






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